By Kate Storey
FEB 2, 2016
You know that feeling when you can sense a fight coming on with your partner? You get that knot in your stomach, your blood starts to boil, and your mind races. It’s okay to embrace the battle, according to relationship experts Dr. Judith Wright and Dr. Bob Wright — as long as you know what you’re really fighting about.
“Fighting is so good because your relationship is about growing and becoming the very best person you can become. Fights are one of your best tools for learning,” Judith tells GoodHousekeeping.com. “They’re servicing a lot of your unconscious gunk. They’re bringing problems up to the service. They’re letting you know what you care about, what you really desire, what you really yearn for deep inside. They’re teaching you so much.” Read the rest of this entry »
THESE 5 HOBBIES WILL STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
In any relationship, it’s important to enjoy time apart to pursue the things you individually love. But our experts say that creating shared experiences, via hobbies, can bond a couple together in incredible ways.
“Having shared interests and hobbies means that you will be spending intentional time together doing things you both enjoy,” explains Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. “It isn’t about running the house or dealing with the dog. It’s about having fun together on a regular basis.” Read the rest of this entry »
6 THINGS HAPPY COUPLES ALWAYS LET GO OF
While there are many secrets to getting along with the love of your life during the ugly and tense times, the number one thing you should embrace is the ability to just let stuff go. “You have to choose between being right or being happy,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D. “Happy couples let go of being right.” That good old “forgive and forget” mechanism is a majorly necessary component to any successful long-term relationship because it allows us to prioritize the future, instead of getting stuck in the past.
A wedding party implies it’s a happy group, and that’s certainly your goal on your wedding day. But just because you and your fiancé love all of the people who will be standing up for you doesn’t mean that all of your bridesmaids and groomsmen are as equally enamored of each other.
Whether they’re your siblings or best friends, chances are most of your wedding party will have met each other in the past. If you’re marrying your childhood sweetheart or high school crush, it’s likely that your social circles have mixed, mingled and possibly even hooked up with one another through the history of your relationship. Read the rest of this entry »
EIGHT HABITS COUPLES THERAPISTS SAY ALWAYS END A MARRIAGE
And no, having an affair isn’t on this list.
TALKING TRASH BEHIND EACH OTHER’S BACKS.
It might sound like advice on avoiding high school drama, but speaking in a mean-spirited way about your partner when he’s not around—not just poking innocent fun at his Star Wars obsession—is a red flag that, surprisingly, is pretty common, says Cole. And it could have a lot to do with your friends. “Women may fall into this habit if they’re surrounded by people doing the same thing,” she says. “If your close group of girl friends are constantly talking poorly about their own husbands, it may feel more normal for you to chime in and say, ‘You think yours is bad? Listen to mine.'” Read the rest of this entry »
7 THINGS THAT REALLY IMPRESS WEDDING GUESTS
Yes, your wedding may be all about you, but as any good host or hostess knows, if your guests aren’t having fun, well, neither are you. To create an event that has everyone up on their feet, moving, grooving and having the time of their lives, try incorporating a few of these crowd-pleasing elements and wedding planning ideas into your big day. Trust us; they’re guaranteed to not disappoint! Read the rest of this entry »
20 WEDDING ETIQUETTE QUESTIONS, ANSWERED BY PROS
What should you do if you don’t want to be a bridesmaid? What if you RSVPed yes to a wedding, and now you can’t make it? As a bride, are you required to give everyone a plus-one? Do you have to send handwritten thank-you notes, and how long do you have to do it? Clearly, attending—and throwing—a wedding doesn’t come without a million and one questions, many of which can veer into sticky, awkward, potentially friendship-ruining territory.
We talked to two pros—international etiquette expert Sharon Schweitzer, author and founder of Protocol & Etiquette Worldwide, and Michael Cerbelli, CEO and president of New York City wedding and event planning firm Cerbelli Creative, who worked on Billy Joel and Sir Paul McCartney’s weddings—to get their insight on the most fraught and sensitive wedding-related situations. Read the rest of this entry »
There’s a saying that the devil is in the details. And when it comes to wedding planning fights, that saying couldn’t be truer. “While you may argue about the big things, like the budget or venue, you’re likely going to bicker most often about the little things,” warns Amy Nichols, owner of and co-founder of The Poppy Group. “Recognizing early that even the small things require cooperation and consideration will help the wedding planning process flow much more easily.”
With that in mind, here are five little things that can lead to big wedding fights, and how to solve — or better yet, avoid — each one. Read the rest of this entry »
SAVE MONEY ON THE VENUE
Perhaps the most attractive reason for having a backyard wedding is the fact that they can be so budget-friendly. “Maybe [couples] feel as if they can spend their money elsewhere and can achieve their Pinterest goals, rather than spending money on a [conventional] venue space,” said Sarah Campbell, owner and wedding planner at Pollyanna Events. Saving money on renting a traditional venue can free up a large chunk of the budget for things like decor, rentals, and catering. Read the rest of this entry »
Ugh, it’s like, don’t your friends realize you have a life too!? Obviously, you’re super excited for them and you’d never in a million years miss the opportunity to stand by their side as a bridesmaid on their wedding day, but seriously, if you have to buy another bridesmaid dress you’ll never actually wear again (despite what the bride says), you might scream! Well that, and the fact that your bank account is taking a major hit too. Besides saving up and grinning and bearing the whole dress thing though, here are seven other ways to survive wedding season when you feel like you’re the perpetual bridesmaid, courtesy of the professional bridesmaid herself, Jessica Janik, Founder of The Invisible Bridesmaid. Read the rest of this entry »